Now, I may not be the norm, but I truly try not to worry about weight gain while I’m pregnant. I stay off my scale and don’t look when I’m at the doctors. When I was first pregnant with Maddox (my first born) my doctor at the time made a comment about my weight gain very early on. I had not gained weight much at all, but I was immediately stressed and worried when I didn’t need to be. I switched doctors the next week and when I discussed it with my new doctor/midwife, she said “There’s no need to worry. Listen to your body and what the baby needs. And if it brothers you, don’t even look at the numbers. I’ll worry about that.” I felt such relief! She stressed the importance of eating healthy things that the baby and I needed and not to worry so much about the calorie intake (expect to be sure I get enough). This piece of advice instantly relaxed me and changed my mind set. I am a vegetarian and I eat relatively healthy as it is (with the exception of pizza, Mac n cheese and occasional sweets.)
This may not be right for everyone- but for me it worked. I honestly have no idea how much weight I gained with either pregnancy. I’m only 5’2″ and I know I was NOT slim by any means when I delivered. But taking away the worry of weight gain while I was pregnant had such an affect on how I felt about my postpartum body as well. I took the same attitude- Don’t worry about the number. Worry about me and the baby. Listen to my body and eat what we need. Now I don’t want to miss lead anyone- I did not lose the baby-weight quickly. But I didn’t feel the need to. I was breastfeeding, eating healthy, and putting my energy where it needed to be. And that’s what worked for me. Again, this may not be right for everyone, but this relieved so much unnecessary stress for me. So if you think it will work for you- get rid of the scale! Trust you body and your baby. It’s doing amazing things! Besides, a new baby is enough to worry about! Let yourself relax and give yourself a break!
We are currently getting ready for baby #3! If you have followed me for a while, you know we practice safe bedsharing/co-sleeping. You can read my original post on cosleeping here.
Bed–sharing, a practice in which babies and young children sleep in the same bed with one or both parents, is a subset of co-sleeping.
One of the key components of safe co-sleeping with multiple kids is that the older kids not be next to the new baby. In order for this to happen we have Marlow sleeping in a DockAtot grande. The Grande is for kids age 9-36 months. Marlow is my snuggler. She would sleep literally on top of me if I let her. So to avoid her getting too close to me and the new baby she will sleep next to me (opposite side of the new baby) in a DockAtot.
If you aren’t familiar with DockATot check them out here! They are a game-changer when it comes to better sleeping babies! DockATot is an all natural, 100% cotton, multi-functional lounger, co-sleeper and playtime lounger. They come in two sizes- Deluxe and Grande.
The reason we use the DockAtot is to keep Marlow feeling snuggled. It also gives her her own space, while still remaining close to me. It has a soft ledge that provides a protective barrier so she doesn’t role onto me and allows her to feel snuggled close so she’s able to sleep soundly.
Marlow also used a DockAtot deluxe, the smaller version, as a baby and loved it! And when Maclan arrives he will be using the DockATot deluxe as well!
If you are thinking about co-sleeping please review the safety guidelines for safe co-sleeping.
This photoshoot was so fun! I told the kids they got to plan their very own, special photoshoot. The helped pick out their outfits. They each got to pick out a new pair of shoes at the store. Then Maddox chose where we would go to take photos. I didn’t do any posing or planning. We found a spot with good light and I let them do their thing. The results were everything I hoped they would be. Which ones do you like best? I’m trying to decide which ones I want to print large for the house. Comment below to let me know!
After dragging my feet I finally sat down (once the kids were asleep, of course) to making a Holiday Gift Guide! There are so many great bloggers out there who do gift guides so I decided to do one filled with things I either own or am buying for the Holidays. I try to make my posts as simple as possible and quick to read (because let’s face it, most of us don’t have time to sit down and read a long post). So if you have any questions about anything please ask away!
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We are so excited to share that baby Burr #3 is a boy! We were able to find out early this time after doing the blood test they offer at 9 weeks. With Maddox and Marlow we waited until 20 weeks but we just couldn’t wait any longer this time! Both kids said from the beginning that it was “definitely a boy!” I’m not sure how, but somehow they knew! For those who have asked- we do have a name picked out but we are waiting to be 100% sure on the spelling before we announce it. But as you can probably guess it will start with an M. Any guesses on the name? Comment below on this blog post if you think you know (or have any good suggestions)!
First let me start by saying I never thought I would write something like this. And I would never do it for anyone except you. Because you deserve it.
I love you.
I love that the first thing you ever said to me was “Hey, girl!” I love to tell the story that I instantly turned around, rolled my eyes, and walked away annoyed. But the truth is- and I’ll never admit this again- I hoped I’d run into you again. I thought you were cute, even in your size 3x basketball clothes, huge fake diamond earrings, and sleeves rolled up to to show off your gigantic tattoo.. I know.. paints a pretty picture, doesn’t it? 🤣
I love that we were together for 6 years before we got married. We both came from divorced families and wanted to be sure we’d make it. But besides honestly being my best friend (gag I know, so corny) One of the traits I admired most and held the most weight when we talked about marriage was knowing the kind of father you would be. We had very similar ideas and beliefs when it came to raising kids but most importantly I knew that you agreed to put the kids first. And while that sometimes means taking a backseat for us, we always agreed we would have a lifetime together and to prioritize the kids while they were young and needed us most.
I love that like your selfless views on being a dad, you always put our family first. You are without a doubt the hardest working person I know. People always joke that you work so much- but they TRULY don’t understand. You wake up early and go to work all day. You come home and devote yourself to the kids and me. Then you stay up into the wee hours finishing your work before trying to squeeze into the sliver of bed space the kids and I have left for you. And you rarely complain. Well… you definitely complain about how much space we take up in the bed, but that’s about it.
*Update: I recently had my eyebrows Re-Microbalded and wanted to share this post again with before and after photos. All the same information below still applies. The final photo is my most recent results.*
Since having kids, I’ve noticed my eyebrows have started thinning. I didn’t think there was much to do about it so I’ve been filling them in with various pencils/gels. While I was happy with the way they look filled in I was so tired of having to do it everyday. So when I was heard about microblading I was super intrigued!
I am in NO WAY a hair expert! I only know what works for me. I have naturally curly hair and it wasn’t until recently that I really feel like really I learned how to get it straight and smooth. I attribute most of this to finding the right products! (Thank you Tiffani at Voila Salon!) I’ve been using these for about a year now and I’m really happy with how smooth it makes my hair, how easy it is to straighten it, and how long a blowout lasts. Tip-I also use a shower cap in between blow outs. I wash my hair 1 once a week…EKKKK.. I know.. but I promise my hair doesn’t get greasy! I’ve linked all the products and tools I use in each step as well as at the bottom of the post. Hope this is somewhat helpful!
Step 1: Shampoo hair. Rinse. Wash again. The first wash removes oils and the second cleans the hair.
Step 5: Blow dry. I am OBSESSED with my new blowdryer/hair brush in one! (and it’s currently on sale!) It has made drying my hair so easy! What use to take 30-45 minutes now takes about 15-20. I highly recommend it! But if you use a regular hair dryer than I highly recommend using a large barrel brush. If you have shorter hair I would get a smaller barrel, depending on length. There are so many methods/techniques on this and I’ll share mine in another post. But for now-youtube! There are so many great videos.
Lastly, every few weeks I apply coconut oil to my hair and leave it on for a minimum of 2 hours, but usually overnight. I apply enough to complete coat my hair but I avoid saturating the roots. Then I wash as as usual the next day.
Again, I just want to say, I have no idea what I’m really doing! I just know what works for me. I’ve tried SO MANY products and these are the only ones I have stuck with and truly swear by.
I’m always looking for fun things to do with the kids. Especially around the holidays. One thing we do every year is make gingerbread houses. I thought I would share how we made our gingerbread houses this year- the easy way.
I came across these premade gingerbread houses at Target the other day for 9$! FYI I’ve also seen the premade gingerbread houses at whole foods and Trader Joe’s. We usually buy the kits and put them together ourselves. However, it’s always a disaster. They don’t stay together and it’s always so hard for the kids to understand that they have to wait before they can decorate it. But with these premade ones everything is ready to go!
I have always believed strongly that one of the main ways kids naturally learn is from copying the actions and attitudes of their parents and other people who surround them. Like the saying goes, monkey see, monkey do. So we do our best to model behaviors for the kids that are important to us. One of the key things we practice in our attachment parenting is baby wearing. In case you missed my previous post about attachment parenting, you can read it here. We carried Maddox pretty regularly in a carrier until he was about 2, and Marlow is basically a baby kangaroo-living in her carrier during the day.
So it was only natural that Maddox’s behavior would copy ours with Marlow. Josh has always been happy to wear a baby carrier, so when we are all together, we share the carrying. When Maddox saw us carrying Marlow around in a baby carrier, he often asked if he could carry Marlow. Since it isn’t quite safe for him to carry her, we found a great compromise. We found this Boba Mini Carrier from Shop Birth Blessings, and since we got it, Maddox has been carrying his stuffed animals and babies everywhere we go. He seems especially proud standing next to me while I carry Marlow in her carrier and he carries his babies in his. You can find this mini carrier and some other adorable designs here. I love these carriers. Now Marlow is stealing Maddox’s so often that I think I need another ASAP!